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Staying Busy When You Are Single

Sunday, March 7th, 2010

This article is an excerpt from : http://ezinearticles.com/?Staying-Busy-When-You-Are-Single&id=384681

Being single can actually be one of the best things to happen in life because of the opportunities it creates for you to try new things and have more fun. When you’re involved in a relationship, the things you enjoy often get forgotten about because of activities you participate in with your partner. When you’re single, you don’t have anyone else to be accountable to so you can take up any activities you’d like to try. Taking advantage of the opportunity to try new things and develop new skills can make you a more self-confident and well rounded person.

One great way to spend your time when you’re single is by doing some volunteer work for your favorite charity or community organization. Volunteering can help you meet interesting new people and develop new knowledge and skills. If you want to stay busy by volunteering, pick an organization that you believe in and a volunteer position that you feel comfortable holding. Match yourself to a volunteer position that lets you use your skills and knowledge to make a valuable contribution. You’ll feel a great sense of self-satisfaction when you’re able to help out people who really need the help.

Sports are great activities for single people because most sports don’t require you to have a partner. Joining intramural leagues for football, soccer, and other team sports can help you to meet new people and have a good time. If you need a partner for something like tennis or racquetball, you can find a partner by looking on local bulletin boards or asking friends if they are interested in playing. An added benefit of playing sports is that you’ll get exercise and fresh air that can help you to look and feel your best.

Education is very important in life, but relationships may take all of the time you have and not leave any time for educating yourself. As a single person, you can sign up for a college course or a non-credit class that teaches a hobby. If you find something you’re interested in, you can sign up for a class and find out if it’s something you want to keep doing. Taking classes can also help you in your career if you take courses that have relevance to your job. Many companies will pay for part of your tuition costs for courses related to accounting, marketing, management, or other topics that can help you do a better job at work.

Finding a new hobby is a great way to stay busy when you’re single because you can spend time working on developing your skill and may have the opportunity to meet new people. There are many hobbies that you can try including needlepoint, horseback riding, scrap-booking, creative writing, and cooking. You can sign up for classes so you can meet people and benefit from the expertise of an instructor or you can buy books and work through the steps on your own. Being single is a great opportunity to make new friends and learn new things, so take advantage of it and you’ll have a more fulfilling life.

By Adrian McMaster

[http://www.lead-a-powerful-life.com]

[http://www.singlelifeat45.com]

More Broken Hearts

Saturday, March 6th, 2010

Putting things in a humorous light often takes off the edge. I also know that It’s virtually impossible to address every broken-hearted scenario in one film. With that in mind I’m developing “Broken Hearts Club: On the Couch.”

“Broken Hearts Club: On the Couch” will be an ongoing organically produced web series on YouTube that focuses on the patients. And boy will we have lots and lots of patients. Each episode will run about 3 minutes and will focus on a single aspect of heartbreak.

Keep in mind, heartbreak happens in every type of relationship: intimate, spousal, sibling, parental, and best friends. I’ m going to do my best to cover as much as possible. It’s going to be fun.

Broken Hearts Club: On The Couch

Broken Hearts Club: On The Couch

8 Ways To Get Over the Person Who Broke Your Heart

Saturday, March 6th, 2010

Top 8 Ways To Get Over the Person Who Broke Your Heart
- by KissMeGoodnight.com

Getting over someone whom you devoted all your time for so many months or even years is no walk in the park. Undergoing the process of denial, depression and anger is natural but sulking in your room for longer than necessary while watching the whole world passes you by isn’t healthy anymore. Wake up! You need to move on.Here are few tips on how to start picking up those pieces down to the fixing your broken heart.

1. Cry.

Face the fact that you’re sad and depressed. There’s no point of hiding it to the world most especially to yourself. Lock yourself in your room and cry. Sob or even wail all you want, it’s alright. Just cry to let out all the heartaches you are feeling. We who have been hurt before know it hurts so badly and the pain is so unbearable. You can let it out by all means. You might get puffy and swollen eyebags but at least you’re not stressing your way to sickness. Remember, it is healthy to express your anger and hurt. You can vent your feelings and relieve the tension and stress you feel inside.

2. Lend Some Ear.

When in pain and confused, it is always advisable to have someone around. Pouring over your sentiments with a friend over a bottle or a cup of coffee is a great catharsis. Who cares if you have told the story a hundred times already to your friends? As long as the anguish is still there just keep on talking. It will soothe your soul.

3. Don’t Listen to Love Songs.

As we all know, love songs tend to stir our emotional side, so be wary and don’t let yourself indulge into listening to love songs when you’re broken hearted. You’ll end up feeling like a complete loser and that’s the last thing you want to happen.

4. Keep Yourself Busy.

Do the things that you neglected to do because you were busy with someone else before. Finish your project that you left idle for almost a month now. Open that novel where your bookmark has been on the same chapter for already a year. Do all the things you’ve been dying to do before but just didn’t have the time. Organize an out of town trip with your friends or try hosting a party. Be with happy people and absorb their vibes.

5. Reminisce.

This may sound weird but is sometimes effective. If avoiding all the places you two have been and all the things both of you were doing before didn’t come up with a good result, then might as well try this one. No, reminiscing doesn’t mean that you have to punish yourself by reliving the memories you once shared, it’s just a way of making yourself immune to all the pains he has caused and for you to face the reality. Remembering the good times you have spent together will somehow make you realize that life isn’t bad after all. Believe me, in time, you will just find yourself laughing at all the things that happened and it will somehow make you proud also because you have overcome them all.

6. Start a Diary.

Start writing in a journal and make it your new best friend. Jot down all the dreadful things that happened to you and purge out all the things that’s on your mind, no holds barred. Confess to your new best friend how despicable your boyfriend is and vow to forget him the soonest time possible.

7. Clean up the Clutters.

It’s time to pick up the pieces and clean up the clutters of your once shattered life. A closing doesn’t necessarily mean a shut down; it’s just a phase that everyone needs to undergo to pave way for a new start. Keep away from your sight all the things that bring back memories of you together. Put them in a box and make sure you’ll never get a glimpse of it to avoid temptation to look at them again. And when I mean keep away from sight, just toss it aside first, not return to the giver.

8. Pamper yourself.

Head to the spa, gym or even to the parlor for a complete makeover. Enough of the sulking days, it’s unfair for you to see him happy while you are still there in your room wallowing in despair. Give yourself a treat and stop looking miserable. You wouldn’t want to look wretched when the hands of fate suddenly give you the person who will completely ease your broken heart, would you?

10 Steps to Mend A Broken Heart

Saturday, March 6th, 2010

10 Steps to Mend a Broken Heart
By Advisor “Jane Wilcox”

Paper heart torn in two, connected with a safety pin

Heartbreak is not selective. Heartache isn’t prejudiced. It doesn’t matter if you are male, female, gay, black, white, Asian, or even mentally challenged. All hearts break in the same way and all hearts will mend, given enough time. As human beings, we have a built-in “impatience” factor that wants the pain to be over and prevents us from waiting out the process needed to heal. Many think that if they meet someone else soon after the breakup of a bad relationship, it will fill the void that love left.

Here are a few tips that will help you to allow enough time to heal your broken heart and assist you back into a happier and healthier space:

  1. Think really hard about the person you are no longer seeing
    You may miss the relationship, but toward the end, did you truly appreciate the way you were treated? Ask yourself, “Is it the person I loved? Or being in a relationship that I loved?” A sense of being special to someone else fills all of us with joy, but if that person wasn’t treating you like you were someone special – what’s to miss?
  2. Give yourself plenty of “Me” time
    Time will heal your wounds. Having alone time is how the Universe prepares you for the next better relationship that is coming your way.
  3. Question any bitterness about the breakup
    Your partner may have been a real jerk toward the end, but ask yourself if you are really bitter towards this person or are you truly angry at yourself for participating in an unhealthy partnership?
  4. Stop blaming yourself for not “fixing” the relationship
    You might be upset with yourself for trying to fix what was wrong while your partner still walked away. There are “takers” and there are “givers” in destructive relationships. You may be blessed with being a “giver”, but not everything can be fixed and a “taker” generally does not appreciate the efforts put forth by a “giver.”
  5. Use your alone time to heal and stretch yourself
    Do things you enjoy. Stepping out alone can be scary; however, recognize this as part of your personal growth. Try and radiate your best inner glow and project good energy when you do go out. Embrace the adventure!
  6. Don’t find a replacement
    A replacement is only going to be temporary – you ultimately want a relationship. You need to take the time to rebuild your emotional reservoirs. You’re really running on empty if you put yourself out there too soon.
  7. Figure out who you are and what you want
    Use this time to really get to know yourself and your wants. Write down who you are – your talents, qualities, dreams, etc. Then write down what you want from a relationship – trust, laughter, compatible interests, etc.
  8. Find new things that interest you
    This is your time to work on who you are. If you are behaving and doing the same things as before, then you are likely to attract the same kind of relationship. Step outside the box. Try new and different activities.
  9. Learn how to be alone
    If you don’t like your own company how can a partner enjoy it? Pamper yourself, fix yourself healthy meals, keep your space clean and regain your self-esteem. Every time you do something kind for yourself, it will reinforce your feelings of self-worth.
  10. You are not alone!
    No one is singling you out, pointing fingers at the “suddenly single” person. There are lots of single people in the world. The media and event planners focus on couples and portray our society as a couples-oriented one, but you can reject that viewpoint. Be single and be proud of it! Your singledom is temporary.

Finally, thank the Universe that the relationship did not work out because there will be something better for you. Dry your eyes and cry no more. Don’t get bogged down with cynicism about love. Garner up your strength and know that the relationship you want and the person who is your true relationship equal is coming.

http://www.keen.com/documents/works/articles/love/ten-steps-to-mend-a-broken-heart.asp

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